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10 Subtle Ways to Make Men Chase and Dominate Their Hearts

10 Subtle Ways to Make Men Chase and Dominate Their Hearts

Attractive regular everyday women can practice these same subtle ways to make men chase and thus become irresistible and approachable to high quality, relationship-seeking men.

Before we begin, I wish to clarify my definition of “make men chase”.

To some, “make men chase” depicts some women as unattainable and placed on some kind of towering pedestal. She glides down the street or hall in grace while on a mission, always equipped with a forward glance while never paying mind to the mere mortal men she passes.

This strategy of “hard-to-get” limits her circle of choices to the small pool of men who foolishly chase after those “limited-access” women.

The problem with this concept is simple.

It scares off most men and prevents a woman from meeting the men who could make a good personality and value match- a healthy relationship partner.

Do You Want to Be“Hard-to-Get” or “Impossible-to-Get”?

Playing “hard-to-get” is quite different than playing “impossible-to-get”.

The average regular man who will make a good partner with you will NOT approach women who outright ignore him- who do not give him any sign of approval.

Yes, we want to feel like we’re “hunting” and that we have won our “prize woman”, but only if we FEEL THERE IS A CHANCE OF WINNING.

When an attractive man approaches you without you giving him a hint that you like him great, perfect.

But what about when he doesn’t? Do you want to risk that you never see him again or that he approaches other women? No, right?

When this happens your objective should shift to giving him subtle signs that he has permission to advance.

Grant him the opportunity to “audition” for the right to reach the next stage of courtship.

Grant him the opportunity to “audition” for the right to reach the next stage of courtship.

-Relationshipbrew.com

Keep your dignity and try these…

10 Subtle Ways to Make Men Chase and Attempt to Win You Over

Grant Them the Audition for the Right to Advance

As I stated before, we love “the hunt”, “the chase”, but very few men will initiate the chase if they feel they have NO CHANCE of winning.

These subtle ways to make men chase and make the first big move to win you over is a combination of light flirting and you sending the message, “I like what I see Mister. Now let’s see what you’ve got. Showtime. Go!”

1. Eye Contact

One of the most powerful ways to dominate a man is with eye contact.

If you want to give him the “green light” then hold eye contact for at least 2-3 seconds.

Make him feel that you offer your approval while still leaving room for him to make the next move.

(Eye contact also makes my list of flirty moves for shy women to dominate men).

What NOT to Do

Make him feel your look is accidental. Don’t make a split-second glance, then look away.

He won’t any reason to make a move and try to talk with you.

2. Face Him

Show him you mean to look at him.

Make him feel that you enjoy it, but that he will have to work to get more of your attention.

Let him feel that he has a chance, almost like you grant him an audition.

What NOT to Do

Do not look like you are in a hurry to get away or that you have more important things to do. While you speak with him he should feel like you enjoy it.

3. Smile

Show him that you are a happy person, at least around him.

Smile to show him that you enjoy seeing him.

Make him feel like he makes you smile.

That’s a feeling that’s hard to beat for us men.

We want to feel that you approve, that we have a shot to succeed with you.

What NOT to Do

Do not smile quickly to get it over with and especially do not smile with fear. He should feel like you are smiling because you enjoy looking at him and vice versa.

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4. Fun and Flirtatious

You prefer a man who knows how to have fun, right?

We want the same from you.

Laugh.

Tease.

Make flirty comments (make a post about this- Wow, I’m so distracted right now)

Wink.

Poke him.

Try these flirty conversation starters.

What NOT to Do

Do not see flirting as childish or a chore. If you do then have you considered that you might lack the confidence to flirt? Honestly, who finds overly serious people attractive? Love is supposed to be fun and vulnerable at the same time.

4. Display Confidence

Confident body language such as eye contact, powerful arm, and hand positions, and face him when you speak are some of the most subtle ways to make men chase and find you irresistible.

Show that you move with purpose and without fear. Speak up, speak clearly.

Display excitement when you speak. He should see it in your body and hear it in your voice.

What NOT to Do

Do not overdo the excitement. Instead, scale it up. First, show him you are happy to see him. Then when he matches your level of excitement. Move it up a notch. But not too much, just enough that he sees you are giving him more attention than you would normally to other men.

Also, do not send mixed signals. This one is huge. For example, do not make eye contact or do other things to get his attention such as flirting, then when he gives you attention, come across uninterested. It’s understandable to be nervous but do not seem disinterested or you may not get another chance.

5. Touch Him

Nothing makes his heart pump faster than when you touch him.

I’m not suggesting anything sexual. Just innocent touch on this arm, shoulder, or lower back.

Make him feel that you’re comfortable being close and that you enjoy being in his close personal space.

What NOT to Do

Do not make it look accidental. Make him feel that you want to touch him. If he sees you doing this to all men then he’ll just assume that you are just confident women with all men. Make the ones you like to know that they are special, different than the rest in your eyes.

6. Compliment Him

I’m not asking you to make his head swell and make him feel conceited.

Just make him feel special, that he stands out to you with a cute, innocent, but simple compliment.

Compliment something he’s wearing, his smile, a personality trait you observe about him, anything that stands out that you find unique to him.

In the end, we want to feel unique to someone.

He’ll adore you for it and find you irresistible.

What NOT to Do

Do not feel that you have to compliment big things or that it is your job to build up his confidence. Just show your approval of genuine things you like about him.

Make Him Earn Your Respect, Time, and Affection

These last few subtle ways to make men chase serve as the basis for creating the allure that you are the “prize-to-be-won”. Make him earn your respect now that you got his attention.

He should feel that you have granted him “an audition” and now he needs to perform to get to the next step.

These keys set the stage to earn his respect and ultimately separate mature relationship-seeking men from all the rest.

7. Tell Him What You Don’t Like

One of the best moments to get a man to chase and see where you stand with him is when he makes a mistake.

You CANNOT just let his mistake slide.

Instead, tell him the behaviors that you do NOT approve of.

Give him the opportunity to make things right.

What he does next will allow things to move forward or come to a halt.

If he works to make things right and to get your approval, then you know that you’re special to him.

What NOT to Do

Do NOT complain about things you do not like or belittle him. The idea here is not to bash him and ruin his confidence. What I mean is make him respect you. Point out the disrespectful things he does or ways he neglects you. (Do not give him reasons to run away. Do not do these things that push men away.)

8. Tell Him What You Like and Want

Make it clear the things you like such as your preferences (things you like to do for fun, your favorite foods, etc.) and the behaviors you expect from men.

Also, make it known what you would like to happen next, but allow him the opportunity to take action.

Try out these ways to tell a man what you want and get it.

What NOT to Do

I am not referring to the things that you like about him. Instead, I mean hint to him the things that you enjoy. Then sit back and see if he takes action to make you happy. The same thing goes for expectations. Once you start to date or establish a relationship, state your side of what you want to happen. Then see if he follows through.

9. Make Him Earn Your Approval and Affection

This is really a mindset piece.

By confirming which behaviors and actions that you approve of and also by stating what you would like to see happen in the future, you put the ball in his court.

You’re leaving it up to him to follow through or to fail.

This gives him the reins, but it also makes him work to earn the right to advance or to lose it.

Reward him for the things he does that you like.

Here are the best ways to thank a man.

What NOT to Do

Do not manipulate him into getting what you want. This will ultimately end with your demise. Do not state what you will give in return. And do not shame a man to get what you want. Eventually, he will catch on and leave you or cheat.

10. Make Him Fit You into His Schedule

If you want another way to see how hard a man will work to find time for you, do just that, make him find time for you. Make him fit into your schedule.

Give him the days and times that you can see him.

What NOT to Do

Do not get bossy. Work out the details with him. If he cannot make the times you offer, then suggest a Plan B. Search for other times. I just do not want you to come across as always being available or someone ready to drop everything they’re doing to see him. This looks needy and insecure.

Bonus: Live a Happy Fruitful Life With Or Without Him

People who enjoy life draw people to them like magnets. Who wants to be around negative people?

Enjoy your life for your own sake and subconsciously send the message that you do not need him, but that you would prefer he be around.

Furthermore, this illustrates that you are not one to sit around and wait for him, that you are not always readily available.

Once again, he must find the time to fit into your schedule.

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10 Flirty Moves for Introverted Women to Make His Heart Skip a Beat

10 Flirty Moves for Introverted Women to Make His Heart Skip a Beat

There’s something mysterious about quiet women that makes them downright irresistible. These flirty moves for introverted women give them an unfair advantage over our meager male hearts.

And let’s be clear when I say introverted I don’t mean deathly fearful to talk to and meet men, I just mean not shamefully outgoing and forward.

It Just Takes One Move to Render Him Helpless

No need to try anything fancy. Just show him that you approve of him and that you give him the “green light” to advance and make the next meaningful move.

The average person will not approach other people unless they feel the other person wants to meet them.

As men, we enjoy the excitement of trying to dominate women’s hearts, some of us call it “hunting”. But we still want to limit the risk of rejection.

No man enjoys outright rejection.

These simple flirty moves for introverted women limit the risk for him while still letting him feel the excitement of “making a move on you”.

I’m not asking you to ask for his phone number or ask to meet up with him, rather just give him the “right to advance”.

Here’s how to do it…

Simple Flirty Moves for Introverted Women that Grant Him the Right to Advance

1. Eye Contact

I’m not asking for much here. Just hold eye contact for 2 to 3 seconds. Let him know you mean to look and that you enjoy the view. He should know that you did it on purpose.

Sometimes making eye contact is accidental.

But when the same woman catches our glance on multiple occasions or holds it steady rather than looking away, we know this means more than a coincidence.

And that’s all the nudge we need to make a move.

If he doesn’t make eye contact first, would you have the courage to do it?

2. Smile

Now that you got his attention smile. Nothing gaudy. Just a quick smile to say hello.

The key here is to both 1) make eye contact and 2) smile at the same time.

This gets me (and every other guy) every time.

That’s really all it takes.

The entire list here of flirty moves for introverted women is simple- nothing fancy, just easy ways to get a man’s attention if you need to.

3. Say Hello

Of course, if you can muster up the courage, actually say, “Hello.”

Do so softly.

And do it while smiling- again, nothing big, just a small smile.

This is so adorable.

He will know it took courage- that makes it all the more irresistible.

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4. Introduce Yourself

When you come across a guy you’ve never met, or you know of him but you’ve never spoken consider just starting with a subtle introduction.

That might be all you need to win him over and open things up for him to want to know more about you.

Just simply state your name and state that it’s nice to meet him.

He will follow suit and introduce himself.

5. Compliment Him

Subtly draw attention to yourself by complimenting something about him.

He’ll have no choice but to find you attractive for it.

Not sure what to compliment?

Try any of these:

  • Something he’s wearing
  • Something he’s carrying.
  • A sticker, pin, patch on his coat, bag, or laptop
  • The way he does something
  • His laugh
  • And you can gather up enough courage and really want to make his heart thump, his smile or eyes.

What do you say?

Just simply say either “I like (fill in the blank)” or “Nice (fill in the blank).”

He knows you’re normally more on the quiet side which makes you that much more attractive when you show a bit of courage to break out of your shell.

6. Address Him By Name

Nothing sounds sweeter when a girl calls us by name, except calling us handsome of course.

Whenever a girl says my name, especially when I see her more on the shy side, my heart pounds.

I think, “What about me made her open up?”

It makes me feel special, and thus, I have no choice but to find her attractive for it.

7. Wave

There’s something irresistible about an introverted girl waving to say “hello”. It’s just so cute.

It shows that you’re approachable.

If you want a man to make a move then he must feel like you want him to approach.

8. Straighten His Collar

Pretend to be doing something nice for him, just straighten up his collar. Pretend to straighten it. He won’t know the difference.

Or pretend to remove a piece of lint from his shirt.

Having you close will make his blood pump faster.

9. Laugh at His Jokes

Most of us men cannot resist finding a girl attractive when she laughs at our jokes, as long as she doesn’t do it in an obnoxious and annoying way.

Just like you, we want to feel appreciated and liked.

And when you laugh at his jokes it makes him feel accepted and that he can entertain you.

All of those feelings serve as nudges to give him the confidence to proceed and make the next move.

Remember leave the door open, let him pass through.

10. Touch His Arm

Any time you can get up close within his personal space and while showing no fear, like you enjoy being next to him, his heart will pause.

But when you touch him, even when innocently just touching his arm for a second or lower back, you place a goddess-like spell over him.

The flirty moves for introverted women in this blog post serve as your sign of approval.

You are saying I like you. I approve of you, but now it’s your turn.

Almost like you’re playing a game of tag.

Now he chases.

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Make Him Want You: 10 Ways Men Find Women Attractive

Make Him Want You: 10 Ways Men Find Women Attractive

How familiar are you with the ways men find women attractive for more than just looks- do you know the different ways men find women attractive?

Some women just get it. They swallow their pride and let men be the person they want to be- while still earning their respect.

These women possess the confidence to pull this list of male mind hacks to drive us men wild for them.

It doesn’t matter if they are tall and skinny, short and pudgy, or not the best-looking.

They know things other women do not understand about men.

These women enjoy their lives with or without men and hold out for only the right emotionally mature relationship-seeking, available men who treat them well.

They don’t live in the past or beat themselves up when things don’t work out with a guy.

And above they stay true to themselves.

How open are you to learning new ways to dominate men emotionally?

Or do you just want to keep getting in your own way and pushing him away?

Learn the simple ways to make him want you while still getting the respect you desire.

Here are some of the things women do who have mastered the ways men find women attractive.

10 Ways Men Find Women Attractive that ONLY SOME Women Understand

Make Him Want You and Get the Respect You Desire

What do men find attractive in women?

First, let’s start with the ONLY two suggestions in this list that relate to physical beauty.

1. Choose Clothes and Apparel that Suit Your Body Type

I am NOT a fashionista by any means. But I do know that when a female dresses in a way that matches her body type it is quite attractive. We men like it when women carefully select a look that suits them. Think of it as finding the right brand for yourself. It makes you stand out.

Here are a few blog posts on other blogs that cover this topic:

2. Choose the Hairstyle that Suits Your Body Type

Again, I’m personally know nothing about HOW to choose fashion or hairstyles BUT I do know how it makes me and other men feel when a woman chooses the right ones that fit her height and body type. No matter if you have extra padding or are tall or short, choosing the right fashion and hairstyle matters and can make you look super attractive.

Here are some blog posts on other blogs that cover this topic:

3. Enter His Personal Space

Show him that you don’t fear him and that you enjoy being up close and personal. Do this by simply entering his personal space within 3 feet of him. As you get close make sure you…

Here are some simple ways to move in on him that we men like:

  • Fix his collar
  • Remove a piece of lint from his shoulder
  • Straighten his shirt
  • Pull down the bill of his hat
  • Interlock your arm with his
  • Side-hug him for a second

And if you’re bold enough hug him around the neck and tell him how manly he smells.

4. Touch Him

…dominate him with simple inoffensive touch and watch how he warms up to you real quick.

Check out my blog post 10 Ways to Dominate a Man with Your Touch

Then next be sure to…

5. Hold Eye Contact and Slight Smile

We need to know that you approve of us and find us attractive. Besides just coming right out and telling us that another way is to 1) Enter His Personal Space 2) Touch Him (check out my post 10 Ways to Inoffensively Touch a Man and Make Him Want You 3) Hold Eye Contact and Smile

You don’t need a big smile (just a small, quick one) nor do you need to hold eye contact for long (just 1 to 2 seconds).

Read this blog post about these flirty female power moves.

6. Make Him Want More (Make Him Chase)

This may sound so simple that you get the urge to ignore it, but this is the single best advice for women dating or in a relationship with men I can give you.

Learn to make him want more.

Give him a little taste then metaphorically walk away.

This includes ALL aspects of communication:

  • Body language
  • Gestures and mannerisms
  • Text Messages
  • Voicemails
  • Phone Calls
  • Face-to-Face conversation

7. Tease Him with Playful Remarks and Questions

This one gets me… every time.

One of my all-time favorite exchanges with a woman came from a simple flirty remark.

After we worked together one day, she asked if I was checking her out.

When I said, “No.”

She replied, “That’s too bad. I wish you had.”

8. Flirty Curiosity-Inducing Text Messages

Text messages provide you with a quick way to turn things flirty with a man.

The trick is to write engaging texts that fascinate him and make it too hard to resist replying to.

One time I sent a text to a woman I met at a company softball league game.

In it, I commented and asked, ” I didn’t want to stare but what color are your eyes.”

Replied, “You can stare all you want.”

I about fell down from the excitement.

9. Cute Animated Gestures and Mannerisms

The more confident a woman feels and interactive she gets with a man, the more interesting it makes her look.

The same woman from number 8 on this list was an expert at expressing herself through animated body language.

I found her irresistibly attractive because of it.

Her feminine energy overpowered me.

She attracted me against my will.

Check out these examples of her animated gestures and mannerisms:

  • Blowing a kiss and winking
  • Walking as if modeling on a catwalk
  • Winking and then smiling
  • Tilting your head and laying it on your open hand while smiling and making eye contact
  • Waving and smiling
  • Biting your lower lip, winking, slightly smiling, and then making eye contact
  • Putting your hand up in a stop motion and turning your head away, then peeking back and smiling

10. Play with Props

Hats, coats, scarves, skirts… well… playing with any prop makes you more interesting and makes you magnetic.

Think of it like acting.

It just optimizes your attractiveness- your cuteness.

Here are some examples:

  • Partially covering your face with a hat while peeking around it with one eye.
  • Tilting your glasses down while peeking above them and smirking
  • Tilting your hat to the side while making eye contact and smiling
  • Holding up your coat and hiding behind it like a curtain then dropping it and curtsying like an actress
  • Swirling your finger around the rim of a wine glass in a circular motion while making powerful eye contact

BONUS 1: Ask for Help- Fix Your Problem

Men cannot resist the temptation to solve problems for you. It makes us feel useful and needed.

Learn how to tap into our male emotional trigger systems with the help of relationship coach James Bauer’s His Secret Obsession.

I share the highlights of the top features of His Secret Obsession here in my blog post.

BONUS 2: Learn About the Hero Instinct

Why do we men fascinate about feeling like your hero?

When you accept that our needs to please you are simple and do not take it personally that we want to help you then you’ll be amazed how easy it becomes to make men chase you.

Check out these male emotional mind hacks in my blog post.

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10 Love Text Messages for Him to Strengthen Your Relationship

10 Love Text Messages for Him to Strengthen Your Relationship

With these love text messages, you will build a stronger bond with your man.

Except these texts are better than anything you’ve ever sent.

Why?

Because they reach him at a much deeper level than flirty or romantic texts.

Men may not seem expressive to you at times.

It’s because they don’t trust that you get them. And that you will take advantage of him and make him feel bad about who he is and even worse…

…manipulate and guilt him to do things for you. This is literally the worse thing you can do to a guy if you want him to stick around. And no other guy will tell you this besides me.

Guys understand guys.

And we’ll share more with our guy friends more than with you.

Sorry.

But you have a secret weapon.

Me.

To help you hack your man’s mind…

…in a good way

…that he will appreciate.

And…

…if you’d like to learn what matters most to us guys on a deeper emotional level then I highly recommend that you master the concepts and action steps taught in HIS SECRET OBSESSION by dating and relationship coach James Bauer.

I swear by these techniques when advising my female mail subscribers.

[Click here] to scan through the best parts of HIS SECRET OBSESSION that I highlight here in this post of mine 9 Secret Signals of His Secret Obsession that Trigger the Hero Instinct.

Or go straight to the source and watch James’s informational video.

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10 Kinds of Love Text Messages Designed to Connect with Your Boyfriend or Husband…

…so that he trusts that you actually love him and want what’s best for him

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How to Tell Him that He’s Your Guy (explain what we need and what we fear), do not lie, be genuine, see it from both your viewpoint and his

Love Text Messages to Show Your Approval of, Appreciation for, Admiration of or Attraction to…

1. His Career: Choice, Accomplishments, or Just Having His Back During Struggles

Guys brag about themselves.

You know that.

But do you take advantage of that and put it in your favor?

I’d bet that you don’t because you fear stroking his ego.

There are positive, healthy ways to do it which will give him no choice but to adore you.

  • “I couldn’t be more proud of you for winning the (x) award. You deserved it. I admire your persistence to succeed.”
  • “Nothing makes me happier to see you doing what you love most.”
  • “Keep your head up, honey. Remember that the most rewarding things in life don’t usually come easy. You’ll find a way to make it work.”

2. Him Making You Feel Safe, Protected

This doesn’t mean being physically protected like a knight with a sword and shield, rather that he’s looking out for your best interests and well-being.

  • “Thank you for always checking if I arrive to work safely. I love having a man who looks out for my best interests.”
  • “When you held me tonight I felt like I was in Superman’s strong arms.”
  • “Sweetie, I love your gentleman gestures, like when you walk me to the passenger side door and open it more me. It feels like your my lover and guardian.”

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3. His Lover Skills

We men want to feel like we can please you intimately. In our minds, if we do that, then you won’t want to seek another man because you will feel fulfilled.

This can be romantic or downright sexy and dirty.

  • “I get shivers throughout my body when you touch me.”
  • “Just the way you look at me when you smile sends shivers throughout my body.”
  • “I get wet just thinking about making love to you.”
Love text messages that he wants to receive from you.
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4. His Sense of Humor

Do you know one of the best paths to a guy’s heart?

Laugh at his jokes.

We want to feel like we can entertain you.

  • “Even when I feel most down you find a way to make me laugh to cheer me up. Thank you darling.”
  • “You know how to make any moment entertaining. Thank you for the laughs tonight.”
  • “I feel so special that we still create new inside jokes. It keeps things fresh and new. Love you.”

5. He Wants to Feel Like a Good Provider

He knows that you don’t need taken care of. This has nothing to do with that. Instead, he just wants to know that you appreciate his effort to do his part financially. We as men fear that we will lose you to another man who can offer more financially. This is why you have had men try to impress you with what they own, what they do for a living and how much money they have.

  • “I know times have been tough for you financially this year. I appreciate everything you do for me, darling.”
  • “You’ve got a lot on your plate financially sweetie. Thank you for dinner and the beautiful flowers. Just know I always have your back. I love you for who you are no matter what you give me.”
  • “The expensive perfume was quite the surprise. Thank you. Just know that it’s never the price but the thought that matters most to me. Love you.”

6. Show that You Appreciate His Giving Nature

We want to feel like you notice our efforts to make you happy. Even when we bring you a gift or do something special for you and you don’t like the gift or need the favor, we want you to recognize our good intentions.

You can voice this with texts so that he knows that you appreciate him.

  • “Thank you sweetie for doing all that you do for our kids. I couldn’t ask for a better husband.”
  • “I love when you bring me beautiful flowers. It makes me feel special. I’m so lucky to have you.”
  • “You give me the best birthday gifts. How do you know exactly what I want. You know me so well.”
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7. Express How Much Fun He Is to Spend Time With

We also want to feel that you have a good time with us. That when we’re not together that you think about having a good time with us. We also want to feel like we know how to show you a good time.

And in this way, it brings us a sense of security that you won’t need another man who can entertain you better than us.

  • “Oh, honey, how do you know what I like so well? You sure know how to show a girl a good time.”
  • “You sure know how to surprise me. How did you know that I would like to (x)?”
  • “Even when I feel down, you know how to lift my spirits by showing me a good time. Thank you, honey.”

8. Show Interest in His Passions, Skills, and Talents

Show him that what matters to him matters to you. It’s another way to show that you care about his needs.

  • “I love that you have a passion for (x) and that you are so good at it. Not everyone has the persistence to strive for excellence.”
  • “It’s amazing that you learned to (x). You’re so smart. It’s quite impressive sweetie.”
  • “Honey, how did you learn to (x), anyway? I find that amazing about you.”

9. Show Support for His Personal Space

Displaying trust and that you understand his need for time to himself will go a long way. This shows that you are secure in yourself and that you don’t need to smother him.

Big wins for any guy.

  • “I know we planned to (x) together, but we can do it another time. Have fun with your friends. I know you haven’t seen them much of late.”
  • “You’ve been working so hard lately. How about you go on a getaway trip with some of your friends? A guys’ trip.”
  • “It seems like you’re stressed from a the things you’re juggling. Would you like some time to yourself to recoup?”

10. Let Him Know that You Respect and Value the Qualities He Prides about Himself…

… without stroking his ego too much.

One of the best ways, if not the best way, to connect with someone, is to identify the qualities they take pride in about themselves and recognize them for it.

Do that, and they will adore you.

  • “I’ve never met someone more persistent and determined to achieve their dreams. Love you hun.”
  • “You never cease to amaze me how you juggle everything and still get it done.”
  • “How do you manage to handle the stress in your life and still carry that stunning smile.”

Learn to Get to His Heart and Become the Center of His Life

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I’ve received tons of emails from women wanting to know how to connect with their man in ways that turn her into his obsession.

The key to his heart is simple (provided you make a good long-term personality and life goals match).

Show him that you know what matters most to him.

What he wants in life.

How he sees himself.

And what role he wants to play in a relationship with a woman.

How can you do that?

Unlock those secrets in relationship coach James Bauer’s “His Secret Obsession”.

I HIGHLY recommend that read this cover-to-cover at least twice.

And then read the sections that stand out to you from time to time.

Either [click here] to get more information about His Secret Obsession in this video.

Or read this post of mine 9 Secret Signals of His Secret Obsession that Trigger the Hero Instinct to find out what I feel the most important sections of the eBook to open the door to his heart.

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Which Love Text Messages Open the Door to His Heart Most?

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Romantic Texts vs Dirty Texts to Flirt and Dominate Men

Romantic Texts vs Dirty Texts to Flirt and Dominate Men

Cute and romantic texts or seductive and dirty ones? Not sure which route to take? Fear it could get out of control and go the wrong direction?

I’m here to help.

I created this blog post to show you how to take a fill-in-the-blank texts message script (a template) and turn them into romantic texts or seductive texts

(I even give movie-style ratings for the dirty texts: R-rated up to XXX).

I’m a guy who runs a few relationship blogs and a newsletter with thousands of female subscribers.

My goal is always to help my female viewers and subscribers to connect with relationship-seeking men on a deeper level.

Every relationship situation is different and your flirting preferences may differ from other women.

But one thing is for sure, all of us men like to have fun and flirt via text.

You just have to choose which direction to take it.

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To Text or to Sext? That is the Question

Do you feel comfortable spicing things up and getting seductive?

Some of you don’t feel comfortable sexting.

Therefore, I want to give you options.

You cannot send the same message in every situation.

So, keep in mind how well you know the guy and how respectful he treats you.

What kinds of compliments does he give you?

Does he seem bring up sex often?

Is it too early for you to talk about sex?

Choose your own path.

But here is how you can take texts and make them either romantic texts or dirty texts.

Need suggestions? Let me help you brew up your own romantic texts or erotic texts. Email me.

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Romantic Texts vs Dirty Texts: Sweet and Cute or Spicy and Seductive?

(Fill-in-the-blank text scripts to create your own)

Directions: Check out the descriptions of each text script. Then look at my romantic texts and dirty texts examples first. Copy-and-paste to send as is or swap out the text in parentheses with your own based on your preference. Plus, feel free to change up my word choice to suit your needs.

1. If we were (______) what would happen next?

Give him the nudge to tell the rest of the story. Some guys won’t need a nudge, others will.

Romantic Texts Examples

  • If we were (outside, it was cold and we had no coats, just each other,) what would happen next?
  • If we were (bored with nothing else to do but stare into each other’s eyes) what would happen next?
  • If we were (seated at a fancy dimly lit bar, and your hand slipped on top of mine,) what would happen next?

*Single? Dating? Looking for more tips how to create romantic chemistry via texts? Check out one of my favorite flirty text guides Text Chemistry by dating coach Amy North.

*In a relationship? Feel like the loving feelings and romance have gone? I highly recommend mastering the fundamental techniques to bond with your partner taught in relationship coach Michael Fiore’s Text the Romance Back. Click here to watch the informational video on Text the Romance Back.

Dirty Texts Examples

  • (PG-rated) If we were (all alone in a parked car while it stormed outside) what would happen next?
  • (R-rated) If we were (stuck in traffic and my hand rested on your thigh) what would happen next?
  • (R-rated) If we were (scantily dressed while cooking together) what would happen next?

*Want more tips how to master the art of talking dirty to a man while keeping your dignity while releasing your inner sexual beast, including copy-and-paste text examples?

Check out one of my favorite seduction guides designed for women Language of Desire by dating coach Felicity Keith, who practices what she preaches.

[Take Poll] Choose One Answer

2. If we (_____) would you rather (x) or (y)?

See what he’s thinking by giving him options.

Romantic Texts Examples

  • If we (were on a walk,) would you rather (we hold hands) or (should I pretend I don’t know you and walk fast)?

[Here you tease him a little to playfully make it like you don’t want to associate with him. Make him work to earn your affection and approval.]

  • If we (were watching Netflix on the couch) would you rather (whisper sweet things in my ear) or (get shy and just watch the movie?)
  • If we (got a drink at a rooftop bar with a scenic view) would you rather (get lost in my eyes) or (in my lips?)

Dirty Text Examples

  • (R-rated) If we (sat on the couch,) would you rather (get close and persona) l or (get shy and just watch the movie?)
  • (R-rated) If we (stood close together at a party,) would you rather (move closer) or (go somewhere more private?)
  • (R-rated) If we (were trapped inside a cabin in the middle of the woods while it snowed) would you rather (just sit by the fire and warm up) or (do something a little more “creative”?)
  • (R-rated) If we (waded through the water of a tropical beach with no one around) would you rather (stay clothed) or (not?)

3. If I told you a secret about (_____), would you (x) or (y)?

The power word “secret” triggers his need to unlock it, especially when he knows when you’re flirting with him.

Romantic Text Examples

  • If I told you a secret about (what I thought of your handsome face,) would you (get excited and do something about it) or (just get scared)?
  • If I told you a secret about (something hot, I noticed about you on our first date,) would you (blush) or (get excited)?
  • If I told you a secret yummy thought that I had about (my favorite photo of yours,) would you (get shy) or (ask for more)?

*In a relationship? Feel disconnected from your partner? Learn how to bring your partner closer with the texting strategies taught in relationship coach Michael Fiore’s Text the Romance Back. Click here to watch the informational video on Text the Romance Back.

Dirty Text Examples

I added the word “dirty” to all of them.

  • (R-rated) If I told you a dirty secret about (my favorite panties,) would you (blush and get shy) or (get excited)?
  • (R-rated) If I told you a dirty secret about (my body,) would you (want to know it) or (rather I just keep it to myself)?

[You can turn this X-rated by swapping out “body” for specific body parts].

  • (X-rated) If I told you a dirty secret thought I had about (a certain part of your body) would (your heart burst with excitement) or (would you keep calm and collect ha, ha, ha)?

[Take Poll] Choose One Response

Which Dirty Text will turn on your partner the most?

4. If a cute girl (_____), what would you do next?

This seems counter-intuitive, but you are teasing him here while referring to yourself in third-person. It’s just another way to act playfully and cute.

Romantic Text Examples

  • If a cute girl (moved closer to you while on a first date,) what would you do next handsome?
  • If a cute girl (looked right in your eyes for a few seconds then smiled,) what would you do next?
  • If a cute girl (with sweet perfume fixed your collar, smiled and winked while she did,) what would you do next?
  • If a cute girl (told you how handsome you were,) what would you do next?
  • If a cute girl (sat next to you at a bar with all the other seats empty, then said hello,) what would you do next?

*In a relationship? Feel like roommates instead of a couple? I highly recommend mastering the fundamental techniques to feel in love again taught in relationship coach Michael Fiore’s Text the Romance Back. Click here to watch the informational video on Text the Romance Back.

Dirty Text Examples

  • (R-rated) If a cute girl (were undressing with the bathroom door cracked open) what would you do next?
  • (X-rated) If a cute girl (were touching herself on the couch while watching a movie) what would you next?
  • (XXX-rated) If a cute girl (rubbed your inner thigh while watching TV) what would happen next?

5. You don’t mind (x) when (y), do you?

Here’s a push and pull technique. You give him what he wants while teasing him to take it away. In this case, you tease him to say in so many words, “No, of course I don’t mind, in fact, I want more.”

Romantic Text Examples

  • You don’t mind (me staring at your beautiful eyes when you drive,) do you?
  • You don’t mind (when I move in closer to you,) do you?
  • You don’t mind (when a cute girl tells you how handsome you are,) do you?
  • You don’t mind (if I get up close like this and smile,) do you?
  • You don’t mind (if a cute girl puts her hand here on your back,) do you?

Dirty Text Examples

  • (R-rated) You don’t mind (if a cute girl puts her hand, um, on your thigh), do you?
  • (X-rated) You don’t mind (me touching myself while we chat), do you?
  • (XXX-rated) You don’t mind me (thinking about imagining massaging your cock while we text,) do you?

Sweet or seductive, which romantic texts and dirty texts do you like most?

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